Patience & Fortitude

The Forgetting

The Forgetting

How am I supposed to feel about not recognizing my mother’s name? I don’t know. It was so shocking to hear it that I originally thought, Somebody has my last name? Hmm, that name is familiar…is there another York family in this congregation? Then I...
Further along in my Grieving Futures

Further along in my Grieving Futures

Why I’m going to be sharing my old grief memoir here, after all these years… Wayyyy back in 1998 or so, within a couple of years of my father’s death, I came up with the book title Grieving Futures. That was it. That was all I had, the title. To be fair,...
A Day of Multiple Infamies!

A Day of Multiple Infamies!

Welcome to August 15th. The vibe is a downer and will stay that way. August 15th, 1943, was the day my mother was born. Had she lived, today would be her 80th birthday. By devious and unplanned irony, August 15th is also my birthday (1969, to be exact). It feels...
The Interlocking of Secrecy and Grief

The Interlocking of Secrecy and Grief

I have been listening to the excellent podcast Family Secrets, hosted by Dani Schapiro, and so many of the episodes surprisingly kick up memories for me. I say “surprisingly” because despite the fact that I admit freely that I was the secret keeper in my...
Grieving Future’s Re-re-release

Grieving Future’s Re-re-release

Yes, really, it’s now 2022 and I’ve re-released this book again! Featuring corrections, improved cover, and better distribution. It’s hard to believe it’s been twelve years since I wrote it, and five years since I last updated this website....