Patience & Fortitude

Why I hate posting on 9/11

This is the obligatory 9/11 post that nearly every American blogger feels compelled to make on this anniversary. I’m not being cynical, although certainly it would be easy. Simply, every year, we are innundated with memorials to this tragedy, calling on our...

Remembering is better than prayer

I was one of the thousands of fans whose morning was consumed by the release/leak of the Avengers movie gag reel. If you don’t know, just take my assurances about the fact that I am a crazy fangirl for the movie and let me just add #COULSONLIVES. But then I got...

Death Cafe: talking about death

One of the greatest traumas I dealt with before, during and after the deaths of my parents, was my complete lack of genuine understanding of what was happening to me. I knew what was happening on an intellectual level, and even on an emotional one (however hard I...

Grieving Futures, podcast: Introduction

The next installment of my book, Grieving Futures. This week’s reading is the introduction, where I explain some of my reasons for writing the book and what I hoped to achieve by it. Thank you for listening in, and I appreciate all feedback!...

The Heartbreak of Independence

Yesterday, July 4th, was “Independence Day” in the U.S.A. and it is a hugely popular holiday for patriotism and nationalism and grilling food and fireworks. Because we’re Americans: that’s how we roll! There really is no other quintessentially American holiday quite...

Creative Grief

I am hard on myself about grief. I’m mad that I let it derail my life for 15 years, and I don’t expect to ever truly forgive myself for that. Which, of course, is the worst possible thing to do to yourself, because holding that kind of thing over our own heads is as...