Reflection: The Lonely Codependent (Grieving Futures)
I miss my parents, as I loved them very much and they loved me, but I would be lying if I did not admit to being glad sometimes that my mother is dead and that my father is out of his misery.
Death and Social Media
By turns heartbreaking, funny, and insightful, his tweets reflected not only his mother’s wonderful personality but the strength of their relationship.
Facing the emptiness
I wrote Grieving Futures back in 2010, and threw it up online pretty quickly. It served as a cathartic bleed out of my emotions regarding my experiences with grief, and as tool in helping to reach out to other grievers. It lives up to its dual purposes, I think. But...
Be free, be free
Giving something to God is turning possession over, perhaps, but whatever they are giving over doesn’t disappear. Theoretically, it just changes hands.
Grieving Futures Podcast, Chapter Next (I lost track)
This here podcast is two short chapters, and all together I'm calling it Chapter Waste Disposal. By which title, I'm sure you can tell it's going to be more rollicking fun from me. Yep....
Planning for the end…badly
I have absolutely no idea how I stumbled over the Secular Celebrations & Humanist Ceremonies website, but I did. It is open on a tab in my browser and I have no idea why, but maybe that’s a good thing. I remember planning for my mother’s funeral, which was held in...
Grief is not a Thief
I don't think it is true that grief "steals our happiness." Grief is not a thief; if we want to get all literary we could say that "Death is a thief" but grief? No, grief steals nothing from us. It simply settles over our bones like a heavy blanket, weighed down by...
An Atheist non-perspective on Religion
I want to talk about my perspective in writing this blog, and where it comes from, and why it’s different from most skeptic’s blogs
The Troy Syndrome
Over at Planet Grief, Helen Bailey wrote an evocative and emotional post, Life, Death and Laundry, about post-death hoarding. She talks about keeping things long past their "due date" and her unwillingness to wash the bedsheets she had once shared with her husband....
After Death, Practice an Act of Love
…we need to remember that planning for death has a similar motivation: it’s not for ourselves, it is a selfless act we do for those we love.
Podcast: Grieving Futures, “Myths and History” chapter
This is the chapter “Myths and History” which was actually one of the very first things I wrote related to Grieving Futures, wayyy back in 1998.
Tragedy changes us; Patience tempers us; Fortitude keeps us going.
Lessons in grief, crisis, and recovery from 30 years of life as an adult orphan from a GenX woman who has resentfully struggled every step of the way.
